There’s nothing easy about breaking up.
Frankly, it sucks.
Terrible things can be said, great memories can be colored differently forever, and at the end of the day a relationship between two people will be changed once and for all.
The only thing that’s really worse than actually going through the process of breaking up with someone is having to go through the process of getting over a breakup (and doing it as quickly as possible).
Nobody wants to sit around and mope.
Nobody wants to sit around and cry.
Nobody wants to feel alone forever.
And – with the tips and tricks we have for you below – nobody has to feel like that anymore.
Let’s dive right in.
1.Accept (and own) the emotions you’re feeling RIGHT NOW
As we touched on above, the emotions you’re feeling in the heat of a breakup are going to be super raw. Your whole world is going to be spinning like a top, and something that used to feel so comfortable is going to flipped right up on its head.
Don’t try to deny these feelings, ignore them, or bury them. Feel them – let them go through you, acknowledge that they’re happening, and accept and own them.
Your road to recovery just got A LOT faster.
2.Cut off ALL contact
Look, the biggest mistake you could ever make when you’re trying to get past a break up is to keep open lines of communication with the person you just broke up with (or the person that broke up with you).
The backslide is very real, buyer’s remorse happens to all of us, and sometimes when we act out emotionally because we’re hurt we end up crippling ourselves later down the line.
Delete the number. Block texts. Go social media silent.
Do whatever you have to do.
3.Take a time out
There’s going to be at least a little bit of a temptation to just dive right into another relationship, even if it’s an empty rebound.
Do your best to avoid this temptation in the first week or two. Give yourself some space, give yourself some time, and give yourself a little bit of room to clear out the emotions of your old relationship before you try and fill a hole with a new one.
You’ll be glad you did.
4.Fight back negative feelings
If you’ve just gotten dumped, the odds are good you’re going to go through an indepth postmortem on the relationship and try to find where you went wrong, what you could have done better, and why you weren’t “enough”.
Cut it out.
Accept that sometimes two people just aren’t a perfect fit all the time and appreciate what you had while letting it go. You’re still you – and bring a lot to the table. Don’t sabotage your future for a past that is in the rearview mirror.
5.Get honest – REAL honest
If you’re going to get over a breakup in a hurry you’re going to need to get REAL honest about yourself, your relationship, your partner, and what you want going forward.
Without this kind of intense reality you might never be able to overcome any of the bumps in the road that hindered your relationship and potentially led to it ending. By getting real – and not emotional – you’ll be a much better partner in the future.
6.Gym, tan, laundry
Okay, maybe you don’t have to do these three things specifically – but you are going to want to get yourself back into showroom condition, you know what I’m saying?
Eventually you’re going to want to get back out there. And when that happens you’re going to want to be able to hit the ground running.
Hit the gym and tone up or add some muscle. Get a haircut, buy some new clothes. Fall back in love with YOU before you set out to find someone new.
7.Dive right back into the mix
Don’t wait too long on the sidelines before getting back into the mix of things when it comes to dating.
There are plenty of folks out there looking for someone just like you, and once you’ve gotten over the breakup you’ve just gone through you’ll want to do you level best to find them.